SHORT LIFE – LASTING LEGACY

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Today marks 18 years since the birth of my son, Dominic Fulton. Dominic was only physically with us for 4 1/2 short months, but he left a legacy that continues to live on.  Not a day goes by  that I do not think of him.  Tragically and suddenly, Dominic died from SIDS on August 9, 2000 – a day etched in my heart and memory forever. Dominic was pure, innocent joy .  He was my second born and daily filled my heart with overflowing love.

 

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Dominic was a happy, healthy baby and his sudden loss, carved a deep wound in my heart that only God could fill and in His time, use for His glory.  

Dominic’s story can be found in the book Amazing Grace For Mothers, published by Ascension Press.  To order, click here:

https://www.amazon.com/Amazing-Grace-Mothers-Stories-Inspiration/dp/1932645268/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1490047875&sr=8-1&keywords=amazing+grace+for+mothers

Here is an excerpt from the book:

Wednesday, August 9 – “Dominic becomes a SAINT!  Our baby goes back to the Lord!”

Wednesday, August 16 – “One week ago today, the angels came and took my little Dominic to see Jesus.  He is a saint now.  He died suddenly of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. My heart aches so much.  I have never felt so much pain in all of my life.  I love being a mother and I loved my little Dominic more than words can express.  I am still in shock, like maybe he is coming back; maybe he did not really die. It has not all quite registered.  The pain is so deep, I cry often. I miss him terribly!  It is hard to believe that this all happened – it was so sudden.  I would give anything to have him back.  So many things remind me of him:  his favorite toys, the smell of baby shampoo, his clothes that are still in the laundry basket, certain lullabies that I sang to him, plans that we had, etc.  Please God help me!  I hurt so much inside.  I give my pain to you.  Saint Dominic, intercede for us all! In one night, my whole life was turned upside down.  My heart feels so empty; my breasts want to nurse.  I have milk coming in, but no baby to feed.  This is a harsh reminder to me and especially difficult.  I want to forget this all happened and have Dominic back.  He was such a good baby.  He brought me so much joy.  That joy is gone now and it is hard to imagine ever being that happy again.”

“I was now in unchartered waters.  The journey of loss is so painful that it has the power to either destroy you or completely transform you.  I knew in my heart, by the very gift of faith that had been given to me, that somehow I had to let Dominic’s death transform me.  I believe the transformation began the night Dominic died…………….”

“When the nurse placed Dominic’s lifeless body in my arms that night, I felt a unique closeness with Our Blessed Mother.  She knew the pain, the anguish, the feeling of loss.  I thought of that holy image, the Pieta, with our Lady holding her lifeless Son, Our Savior, in her arms. From that moment on, I knew that my life would be forever changed, and that Dominic was now in heaven.  According to Church teaching, he was now a saint.”

 

By the grace of God, the profound pain from Dominic’s loss, sourced from my unfathomable love for his precious life, has truly transformed me over the last 18 years .  Pain has the power to change us for good, or destroy us  – the decision of what path we allow the pain to take us on, lies in our hands. I am grateful for the gift of my faith that allowed me to see clearly amidst the agony and tears, to surrender to God’s will and choose the life giving path.

Dominic lives on in me and how I daily choose to live my life for Christ.  I have a son in Heaven interceding for myself and my family -an incredible gift – Saint Dominic!

 

Dominic also lives on in all those who knew and loved him.  His short life touched many hearts and his spiritual presence can now be felt.  He left a legacy a legacy of authentic love.

 

St. Dominic Fulton – Pray for Us!

 

 

 

 

SHORT LIFE – LASTING LEGACY
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I am blessed to be a wife to my best friend, mother of five beautiful blessings and three more souls in Heaven. I write about living my faith as a wife and mother amidst the ordinary moments each day that God wants to make extraordinary! I also share my passion for total health - body and soul and my equal zest for living life intentionally in every season of life! I am an outdoor enthusiast, gardener, regular blogger on marriage for the United States Conference of Catholic Bishops Website, contributing author to the book "Amazing Grace for Mothers," a speaker, and a lover of life! WELCOME! Thank you for visiting my site!
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5 thoughts on “SHORT LIFE – LASTING LEGACY

  • April 3, 2017 at 9:35 pm
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    What a true loving Mother you are. I can only imagine how emotional it was for you 19 years ago. Dominic is sure a cutie and I’m sure had an impact on many lives during his short time here on earth. What a treasure to have this saint in heaven waiting on you. Thank you for the words of encouragement you offer to others. A friend of ours just lost their baby recently to SIDS and it changes ones life forever.

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    • April 5, 2017 at 10:03 pm
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      Paul, thank you for your kind words. It truly is a treasure to have a saint in Heaven! I am sorry for the loss for your friends. There is an organization called SIDS of Illinois that was a great support during our time of loss. I would be happy to connect your friends if they would like.

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    • June 17, 2017 at 4:46 am
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      Paul, I am for some reason just now seeing this comment. Thank you so much for your very kind words! It is a treasure to have a son as a saint ! I am so sorry for your friends loss – yes it does change your life forever. If your friends ever need someone to talk to who has been through the same loss, please feel free to give them my contact info .

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  • March 30, 2018 at 8:17 pm
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    Kathleen: I’m sure you are destined to join the angles and your son as well from what I remember of you and your dedication and knowledge of the Faith. Lynn and myself have been fortunate. Joe is now a practicing attorney and Nicholas is a teacher. We really were thankful of your talents in our youth programs at Sacred Heart in Bluefield many years ago…But keep in mind as hard as it may seem, you are the one most fortunate because you have a Saint already watching over his mother……….Reminds me of Christ and the Blessed Lady…….Happy Good Friday and many Blessings !!!!!

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  • April 4, 2018 at 4:52 pm
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    I remember that day so well!!! Santana was 7, she’s now having her own child. Sydnee was barely 2, she’s in Medical school now. It all seems so long ago but I remember it so well. I know it is your faith that carried you through and what still continues to guide you!
    You’re so very lucky to have that.
    Kristen

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